If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend for a couple of months and the relationship is new and you introduce them to your family and your family for whatever reason doesn't like them, you really don't have to worry about it that much because when a relationship is new and you aren't sure where it is going then why worry about it because you may not marry the person and if you find someone new then the whole situation become irrelevant. But what should you do if the relationship becomes serious?

You can sit down with the family member or members that have a problem .Find out their concerns and see what the problem is. Now, if both the boyfriend/girlfriend does not like the family either then you are going to work hard to straighten it out. Now, if you have a situation where the significant other and your family had words that may be hard to forgive then you have to find out which side is willing to call a truce.

There are some families that just don't give these relationships a chance. Try sitting down with each party separately and see if they are willing to put it behind them.

The majority of the time families and boyfriend/girlfriends can find a happy medium because they both care about you. Then over time they can grow to bond and truly like each other. You are not trying to get them to be best friends or buddies but if there is a family function or a dinner party you want everyone to be civil and not let on to others that there may be a problem.

But you have to realize that there may a point of no return. Sometimes significant others do something bad enough and over a long period of time, your family may not be forgiving. They may ask you to choose and at that point you have to sit down with them or get some counseling especially if you really love the other person.

It would not be fair of either one to make you make that choice but it does happen and if your family cares about your happiness and your significant other does as well then they will not out you in that situation.

If you do run into problems like this or worse, talk to someone professionally like a psychiatrist or someone who deals in relationships and see what they suggest. The only thing that you can do is try to work it on both sides. Maybe you could all go out to dinner or have dinner at either home and see what can be worked out.

When there is two of you it is tough but when children become involved it becomes 1 million times harder to deal with. Then comes the stress of holidays and birthdays. You want to nip it in the bud before that happens.