Anger is a natural emotion that we all feel from time to time, so most people will sometimes be faced with an angry partner. But for some couples anger seems to be an continuing part of the relationship. Some people come from family backgrounds where anger was openly and regularly shown and have learned to express anger whenever life feels frustrating.Others might feel they're going through a particularly stressful time and anger may be a temporary response to external difficulties. In these circumstances, a partner's anger might be generalised and not aimed at anyone in particular.

Living with anger
Whatever the reason for it, living with your partner's anger can be confusing, frustrating, upsetting and exhausting.
Ongoing anger in a relationship is shown in two main ways:
Your partner seems to be permanently annoyed and simmers quietly but constantly.
Your partner erupts and explodes with anger at the slightest thing.
Coping strategies
However your partner expresses their anger, the following tips will help you to minimise its destructive effect on you and your relationship.
Keep calm. Anger fuels anger, so if you want your partner to calm down then you need to stay calm yourself.

Acknowledge your partner's feelings. Openly saying "I can see you’re angry" and, if appropriate, "I understand what you're angry about" will prevent your partner from believing they have to prove how they feel.

Show you’re listening. People often continue to be angry because they don’t think they're being listened to or taken seriously. Prevent this by giving eye contact, nodding and repeating significant words and summarising what's been said. (More tips at Ways to make peace.)

Share your feelings and fears. If you're feeling angry too, then say so. If you're feeling nervous or upset by their anger, then share that also. (More tips at Ways to make peace and Productive arguing.)

Be conciliatory. Say something to show your partner you want to make peace. For example you could apologise if appropriate or acknowledge your part in the problem. Or you could show regret that something has happened, even if it was out of your control, or offer a compromise.