Author and talk show host Vivian Elebiyo is like the Oprah Winfrey of an alternate universe. She offers guidance and hope especially to young women. Brought up in a wholly different society, her powerful faith in God and a penchant for common sense make for one of the most irresistible voices of the decade. Who is this marvelous gift to America?Vivian is the author of “My Virginity is Ruining My...
Nothing makes a guy a bigger coward than being totally into a woman. You know those horribly awkward moments where you just want to say the most impressive thing that makes her laugh, or decide that she wants you, or gives her that final insight into what an awesome guy you really are? Those moments turn us into the biggest mushy little fluff balls ever, and it is all based on the how we regard...
When people first start using a free online dating forum, they may be tempted to rush into the dating relationships too quickly. That is a mindset that is unnecessary with this type of dating service. Since you are not forking over your hard earned dollars for web site subscriptions, you won't have to hurry to get every possible introduction possible from the site before your subscription runs...
When you use the free online dating sites, how can you behave in such a way as to attract the right type of dates to yourself. This may be a hard question to answer if you have typically done your dating only in a face to face environment. Maybe you are the type of person who only thinks in pictures and so the written word on a dating website won't register very well with you. If you need to watch...
So you say that you’ve tried it all from blind dates to online dating and still nothing has worked? I say that’s rubbish! The first rule of thumb is that dating is a numbers game. The Rule of Averages can be applied to dating in that the more people you contact the better the chances of finding a mate. So if you contact 100 people you are more likely to find someone to date versus just contacting...
Being ThirtySomething is rapidly becoming the crux age for many of us. It's the time when we have matured and have woken up one morning to understand finally who we are and what we are about. We generally have some idea of direction at this age and it is a time for choices and crossroads. Life may have begun at 40 in times gone by but these days your 30th birthday is the age to sit up and take...
Once you have started dating regularly you will need to think about keeping the momentum going. It is all too easy to allow your dating to run out of steam too early and watch your date lose interest in you. It is also the case that you can easily lose interest in them too. This happens because most often there is too much given and received too soon. People sometimes get bored and go after a new...
Being single means different things to each of us. For some it is a way of life. For a small minority, it is the way we always will be. For most of us, its is a constant battle with optimism. Hope springs eternal they say. We weren't designed to spend our lives alone. For the solitary monk it may be a life of dedication but for us mere mortals, its is a state of being that we hope is temporary.
When you begin dating, you must recognize that there are some major rules of thumb to follow that will help you be successful with others. When I write these kind of lists I often feel like I am a teacher restating the basics; but the truth is we all forget from time to time. Dating is about two people coming together to see whether they are compatible and then enjoying each other's company so...
When dating, there are certain people I have encountered who always stand out. It is not those who were the most visually stunning or those who were the most flash, it was simply those few people who exuded class. Men can have class, women can have class. But what do I mean? Well, by class I mean a level of sophistication, education, intelligence and breeding that makes them stand out from the...
Okay so you have met the love of your life. You have been safely cocooned in your love nest and things have been going fabulously. You guys are getting pretty serious and its time to take things to the next level due to inquisitive phone calls from keenly interested parents. Lets face it, you are dreading it. Your private life is about to be held open to scrutiny by people you know to be...
The fact is, we all get tired of it - dating. I do and maybe you do too. Yes its true, we get tired of trying to meet people we like. We go through hell on earth to meet someone, elicit their details, spend ages and ages chatting, emailing, messaging, writing, phoning and then we go dating. And then we go dating again. And it comes to nothing. And ultimately dating fatigue sets in. We singles know...
More than anything else, fear when dating will get you off to a bad start. Your date can sense that you are scared a mile away. It shows, it comes across and it is hard to disguise. Fear makes the person on the receiving end feel unattractive and unsteady. It makes them not want to be in this situation with you and you will find that rejection comes quickly. It is a viscous circle because the...
I decided to take a survey of good friends and find out what kind of regrets people had when dating. Regrets took on many different forms in their varied answers but I thought it was interesting to ask because it often highlights dating issues we often forget to mention. As with many of my surveys, the results are haphazard but are useful in pointing out that we are not alone in the mistakes that...
Are we searching for Miss or Mr. Right or have we already met them before? Did your Mr. Right once exist in your former life? Were they childhood sweethearts?First love isn’t a new topic but I realized that first love is an emotionally potent one. With this in mind I realized that first love must have a much greater effect on the way we handle our lives that we perhaps want to admit. Until we...